The holidays are here again! This season is filled with cheer, fancy parties, family, gifts … and stress.
No matter how joyful this time of year is, the endless to-do lists and disruptions to our regular routines take their toll. Between navigating interesting family dynamics, trying to magically budget for gifts, and the pressure of attending 8 billion holiday events and parties, stress is bound to show its pretty little face between now and the new year.
Thankfully, we’re all in this together. Here are some tips I’ve picked up through a combination of research, life coach sessions, and a few breakdowns. I hope they’re able to help you through what I call “joyful madness.”
Budget, Budget, Budget
No matter your financial situation, buying gifts for everyone adds up. Set a realistic budget and stick to it. Listen, I know that’s easier said than done. As my husband can attest, I’m still a work in progress in this regard! But we have to remember it’s the thought that counts, not the number on the price tag. Homemade gifts are my favorite, and they can be incredibly meaningful.
Plan Ahead
Sitting down to write out to-do lists and schedules may feel like adding yet another thing to your plate, but having a clear record of events you’re attending, gift lists, chores, and other holiday tasks can come in clutch. (Did I use that in a proper Gen Z way?)
Tackle these lists one thing at a time. Yes, you’re a magical unicorn, but give yourself grace to check things off as slowly as you need to. Ticking off items can help you feel more in control. I have multiple lists going simultaneously in my phone notes.
Take Time for YOU
Y’all, you can’t fill another’s cup if yours is empty! Repeat that out loud to the mirror. Whether it’s a hot bath, a salon visit, reading a book, or setting the lists aside to watch your favorite holiday movie, make sure you include time for self-care — even if your house is filled with guests. You need that pause to recharge.
Find ways to fill your own cup, whether it’s spending time with friends or practicing gratitude.
Step Away
Every family has its quirks, and holiday gatherings can sometimes bring out the worst of them. I’ve seen it unfold and ended up eating my feelings in the form of a whole pie. Set boundaries, and don’t feel guilty about it. If things get too heated, step outside and take a breather.
Maintain Healthy Habits
Forethought can help you maintain your healthy habits despite stress and endless party buffets. You don’t need the whole plate of deviled eggs plus multiple servings of mashed potatoes and dessert! Drink water, eat veggies, and get a little bit of exercise. Your body will be thankful, and you won’t feel so lethargic! Again, I’m still working through this one myself.
Just Say No
You don’t have to attend every event or meet every expectation. Prioritize what truly matters, and don’t be afraid to say no when you need to. People will understand, and you’ll feel a lot less overwhelmed. If anyone responds with negativity, remember that’s on them. You’re doing what’s best for your well-being.
Be Grateful
I say this always: A mind filled with gratitude will do wonders for your overall well-being. Reflect daily on things you’re grateful for. Start a journal and jot down what you are thankful for each morning. It may feel weird at first, but over time it will become a habit and shift your mindset.
Pause Technology
We’re all so addicted to our smartphones. Unplugging for even a short time can bring a sense of relief. And don’t compare your holiday traditions, gifts, or anything else with what you see on social media. Remember, what you see on others’ timelines is simply the highlights they choose to show you!
Connect Authentically
The holidays are about connecting with the people who matter most in our lives. When we invest our time in deep connection, it feeds our soul. For example, life has been running in fast-forward lately, but I made it a priority to spend quality time connecting with my girlfriends. The to-do list was still there, but a wonderful night of great conversation gave me a much-needed recharge.
Lower Your Expectations
Focus on love and togetherness, not perfection. Put your effort into making happy memories rather than stressing about every little detail. No one is going to remember if your house was sparkling clean or if your table décor was perfectly matched.
Take these words of wisdom from ICF-accredited coach and trainer Life Coach Laura: “Think about what you want the holidays to mean to you and your family. Then let go of expectations based on the past and enjoy your time together. Isn’t that what the holidays are for?”
Take a deep breath and enjoy the holidays. Stay connected, and share ways that help you get through the seasonal stress.
@EricaDeLong
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